Did you know that if you do not like what you see, you can change your lens? Year after year, I make an annual appointment with my ophthalmologist. Fortunately, in the last few years my site has literally been crystal clear. However, it never fails that once I leave the doctor’s office I experience blurry vision from time to time, with no explanation or warning.

Luckily, it hasn’t been anything that my prescribed lenses can’t correct. Life should be this easy and can be.

In the last week, I had an epiphany about why I saw things the way that I do. I often dream of an enhanced world that is just and fair, where families come together at dinner time and listen to the fabulous stories told by their children. I now realize that it is because it is the lens that I am most familiar with from my past.

My parents have been together well over 45 years and although my father was in the military and often traveled, his home was where is wife and child lived. Although my story is not like theirs, I find it important to embrace the family unit for the benefit of our future leaders. So, I decided to do something about it!

Then there is my lens of how I see the importance of men in our communities. For generations, I have witnessed working class men who provide and serve our country. I believe that if expectations are set, men will continue to answer the call.

Then there is my lens of women. I truly believe that sisters can build each other up by providing unwavering support. Although, I am an only child, I am fascinated with the bonus that families receive when there are additional people to count on. If we create platforms for bonding and uplifting, things will organically form.

Then there is my lens of how I see children. I see their innocence and their genuine need to belong. I want them to continue to be dreamers and grow up in a safe and loving home.

No matter how many times I put on my glasses, my lens and the truth doesn’t always match. But I refuse to give up and I encourage you to do the same.

So if there are times that your lens is somewhat blurry due to adversities, challenges or setbacks, assess the situation and make changes to your lens. It may not be as simple as getting new glasses, but it is doable and possible for you to see clearly.